I talk to my child about abuse

EDU-TV 2
February 20, 2018
Giving Hope – Active for Inclusion
February 20, 2018

Every day, in Romania, 6 children, both girls and boys, are sexually abused. In the County of Sibiu, we have recently seen news of minors who suffered repeated abuse, which leave behind long-term trauma. Parents and teacher don't know how to discuss this subject with children and teenagers and how to help them not to become victims. Many dangerous myths go around, such as that it won’t happen if you don’t mention it. Through our project, 180 parents and teachers in the municipality of Sibiu, as well as in towns and villages in the county of Sibiu will benefit from parental education sessions, held by experienced psychologists, who will help them acquire the necessary abilities to prevent sexual abuse on children and young people.

   
3075 RON
Suma promisa
7000 RON
Target



44%

Recent statistics show that, in Romania, 6 children are sexually abused every day. 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls will face some form of sexual abuse before the age of 18. Beyond stats, this is also confirmed by the from stories entrusted to us, between tears of frustration and helplessness, in A.L.E.G.’s “blue room”, where our psychological counselling sessions take place. Many parents showed their need to learn how to protect their children from sexual abuse and how to talk to them about these taboo topics.

And since it is a subject surrounded by silence, both at home, and at school, there is a series of wide-spread, very dangerous myths.

 

Myth 1. It cannot happen to my child

Danger lies much closer than we think. Figures show that only 10% of sexual abusers are unknown, 23% are other children, while 67% of sexual abuses are perpetrated by somebody who has access to the child and who is wee-known to the little one. Abuse takes place in seemingly safe places. In most cases of abuse, children are under 5 years old.

 

Myth 2. Its better to stay away from this topic.

As it is a sensitive subject, parents avoid talking to their children about protecting their body. Out of shame, they fail to give them early sexual education. Others often say “it is too early”. It is important that we think about the consequences, the costs that our children will pay because of the lack of parental education.

It is best that parents and teacher make sure children get the right information, so that they do not become victims of sexual abuse. According to and old saying, „it takes a village to raise a child” - a community of responsible, attentive, and sympathetic people!

Adults (parents, educators, teacher, experts):

  • will be better informed and will learn how to talk to children, in order to prevent child sexual abuse,
  • will learn to identify signs of abuse,
  • will be able to help children distinguish between abuse and normal affectionate behaviours,
  • will understand the importance of a well-established parent-child dialogue and of a relationship based on trust.

 

Teachers:

  • will be better prepared and informed to identify the signs, the behavioural changes or the moods that may indicate a child is abused,
  • will become aware that they can be an element of support and of help to these children.

 

The community:

  • will have access to the right information on child and teenage sexual abuse,
  • will become aware of the importance to report suspicions of abuse to competent authorities.

Direct beneficiaries/target group:

- 130 parents in the municipality of Sibiu, as well as in towns and villages around Sibiu - as main educators and mentors for children,

- 50 teachers, educators - since kindergarden and, later on, in primary school, educators/teachers can greatly contribute to the reduction of this phenomenon.

 

Indirect beneficiaries:

- 200 children and teenagers between 3 and 15 years old in the municipality of Sibiu and the surrounding rural and urban areas,

- local decision-makers (Child Protection Agency, Sibiu County School Inspectorate, Sibiu County Centre for Educational Resources and Assistance etc.).

The project will help 180 parents and teachers in the municipality, as well as in towns and villages in the county of Sibiu, to acquire the necessary skills to prevent sexual abuse on children.

The project will draft and disseminate information session models for parents, aimed at reducing the risk of child sexual abuse, so that these models can be replicated in the entire community.

- consultation with parents and teachers on their information needs, through focus groups (months 1-3)

- drafting materials for the implementation of the sessions for parents and teachers (months 4-5)

- implementation of the sessions for parents and teachers (months 5-10)

- dissemination of material in the community (online and in competent institutions).

Salaries for the project team: RON 3 000

Expenses for the educational material, printing, etc. RON 1 700

Administrative expenses: RON 1 500

Transport expenses: 800 lei

Association for Liberty and Equality of Gender - A.L.E.G.

In 2016, A.L.E.G won the With and For Girls International Award, for positive changes in the lives of teenage girls, brought about through activities in which they are directly involved: http://www.starsfoundation.org.uk/blog/announcing-winners-2016-and-girls-awards

A.L.E.G. is an NGO which has been offering support to victims of gender violence for 13 years, while unfolding information and awareness raising projects on gender equality and gender violence prevention. We have gained experience from 3 multinational European projects aimed at education for gender violence prevention in schools, involving teachers and parents. Our most relevant projects on this topic were:

My Body, My Own - Sexual Violence among Youth: Raising Awareness and Counselling Centre” - aimed at increasing the access of vulnerable young people to information services on sexual violence and at supplying integrated specialized assistance to victims of sexual violence, through information and awareness raising activities for young people and for experts (doctors, social workers, school counsellors, police officers, parents, priests) in the county of Sibiu.

GEAR - Gender Equality Awareness Raising against Intimate Partner Violence” - 55 teachers and counsellors were trained to implement class workshops; 216 pupils (boys and girls) benefitted from at least 13 hours of class activities. We designed and adapted two ready-to-use activity books for teachers.

LOG IN - Laboratories On Gender violence In New media- 400 parents and teachers became aware of the positive/negative use of new media; 975 pupils (boys and girls) understood harmful and violent behaviours related to the use of new technologies and found positive, innovating relation models.


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